I am not perfect, nor will I profess to be even close to being perfect. Every time I share a message with others, I am, quite honestly and directly, preaching to myself, first. Trust me! After all, I am the one in my life that needs it most. I can’t change you. I can only change me. I am my own responsibility.
And what a responsibility we can be at times.
To fall from a place of intentionality, a particular objective that we deem as noble or honorable and then fail at miserably, then encounter the deluge of thoughts – guilt, regret, “what-if” .. Well, “what if” we could shut those voices up? I mean, are they really constructive, anyway?
No. Guilt and condemnation are never devices for bringing about positive change. They further promote negativity and draw more of the same negative thoughts and actions into our lives.
We know this! I mean, think about it, right? Whatever we focus on, whether negative or positive, like a camera, will develop in our lives! So, wouldn’t the logical solution be to focus on the positive? I am not saying to throw our head to the wind singing, “lalalala I can’t hear you!” and being irresponsible, but intentionally looking for the benefit, the positive in each situation, and building our lives from that standpoint?
There have been MANY a time in my own life that I have regretted things that I have done – been careless with a relationship, made a quick decision based on emotion rather than logic, etc .. and it would be VERY easy to sit in a pool of pity and roll around for a good long while .. and, maybe sometimes, I have done this for a season .. but, in the end, life requires us to get back up, suck it up, embrace rubbing some salt in the wound (salt is a cleansing agent, you know) and continue on in a positive direction. Right?
What is the difference between a person that embraces failure as temporary defeat and gets back up, and one that sees failure as an ultimate destination? Who do you think winds up being a happier individual? More “successful?” (Define “success” yourself).
Failed love? Flopped business? Tough family relationship? Burnt home-cooked meal? These are all temporary statuses that do not require you to change your permanent address to “failure,” or, “defeated.” Can you say that love does not exist? Then why would it not be for you? This was a lifechanging question for me posed by a friend the other day. What a great point! What a healing point.
What makes you so different or so terrible that it could not be for you, just like everyone else?
We wrestle with believing, we wrestle with getting back up after we fall on our faces. But my question to you, is, do we really have a choice but to get back up? The toddler that is learning to walk falls, and falls, and falls, and falls again .. only to get back up and walk. She doesn’t get down on herself and think, “Well, maybe this just isn’t for me,” or, “Well, maybe I am just not cut out for this walking thing. Guess I’ll just stay on my hands and knees to get around..” Um, no! She looks around and sees people all around her walking on their two feet and thus she has hope and a vision that she, too, will walk on two feet. THAT is her perspective and her understanding. And we could maybe relearn from that.
The wisdom of intentionality is the fact that we don’t just fall into positive thought patterns. We all have the potential to fall into negativity due to life circumstances and situations and decisions we make. But, at the end of the day, we have the choice – life, or not .. continue, or park .. our failures do not define us, they are learning points, places where our perseverance and intentions are tested ..
It’s up to you. What do YOU want?
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.