Over the past two weeks, I have been learning a valuable lesson in pride:
Look out the window, not in the mirror.
I find it terribly interesting and terribly awesome, and quite honestly, not terrible at all, that when I learn something that speaks to me that needs to be a perspective shift in my life, that area then begins to manifest itself in tests in places in my life. Tests, if you will. Trials.
It’s a beautiful thing, because if we could just simply read something and it downloaded into our life, applicable at the moment of inception, then we may be in trouble. Tests and trials come, to do just that: test, the word we have heard and learned and are now contemplating. We learn very well by experience, and applied knowledge is wisdom on which we can live by.
So, looking out the window, versus the mirror. Do you perceive this? It is huge. Right now, I’m sitting at a coffee shop I’ve never been before in Richmond. It reminds me of when I gave in to the desire and made the commitment to write more almost two years ago. I was in a coffee shop I had never been before in a place I had never been before. Outer Banks, NC.
That trip was amazing. I had never been to the Outer Banks (OBX) before and did not understand the hype that many people in the Richmond area present it with. So, I took some time off from work (that I did not know how I would afford .. well, that is not true – I did, but it made me very nervous to take the time off) and drove my own little self down to NC. I was meeting up with some friends from high school that I had not seen in a very long time. They had a house down there they were renting for the week. Thus, I took the opportunity and went.
In the past few years, I have come into the beautiful realization and love of the fact that I can go anywhere and do anything that I so desire. I don’t need anyone to confirm it for me. (Except God, He is definitely my advisor on EVERYTHING). I don’t need anyone to encourage me to do something on my own. I don’t mind it. It is fun. I like getting out and connecting and even getting into awkward situations. Aren’t we ALL awkward when it comes down to it? Come on, y’all, no more need to hide behind a politically-correct, perfectly buttoned persona. Let it rip. Just BE.
Rabbit trailing back, I remember looking out the window of the coffee shop in Duck, NC (it was a cool rainy day in early June) and being in this environment, with no one to preoccupy my time and a relative commitment to NOT veg out on social media, I observed my surroundings. I’d like to tell you that I talked with people a lot. Some, I did. But I spent more time on this trip being quiet and simply observing when I was alone.
What does “Look out the window, not in the mirror” mean to you?
To me, it reminds me to not focus on myself so much and to not take myself so incredibly seriously. Everyone needs each other in some respect. No one person is an island. And one person wrapped up in themselves makes a very small package. We are not created to be isolated. There are times when we need to be alone and quiet and there are times when we need to be alone and work. But the bottom line is that we need to be aware of and considerate of those around us in our world. To break out of our own little bubbles and connect.
Relationships are the most valuable treasure we have on this earth.
Today’s dare: Particularly when you are not feeling like it, step outside of your own self and connect with someone around you. Don’t put a time crunch on it. Just open up conversation and connection to another person around you. You never know if it’s precisely what they – or YOU – need.